Adoption Update

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[Trigger warning: In this blog post, I discuss our successful adoption match and the first couple of months with our son. If you’re in a sensitive place due to infertility, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, etc., please proceed with caution.]

It’s been a little quiet around the blog this summer because we went to Europe for two weeks, we were back for two weeks, we had some of our best friends visit for two weeks…and then a little guy entered our world. The day after our friends left, we met with a birth mom and dad, who chose us to be the parents of their child. Initially, we all thought the birth mom was due later in July. But she ended up going into labor right after the matching meeting and delivered the next day.

We had about 24 hours from matching with the parents to meeting our son, with about eight hours from finding out the mom was in labor to arriving at the hospital, just five minutes before he was born. Needless to say, it’s been a whirlwind. As many of you know, Jake and I have been preparing our nursery since the fall, and I’m so so glad that we did. It was still crazy purchasing a car seat (which we brought to the hospital in the box), purchasing a ton of basic newborn supplies (diapers, wipes, onesies, etc.), and getting the cats ready for an unknown length of time absence. But it was SO much less crazy than it would have been scrambling to buy and assemble a bunch of big furniture.

The word that I keep coming back to about the last couple of months is surreal. Of course, I am overjoyed to have this little guy after so many years of waiting and love him more than anything. But I’m still processing everything that’s happened, and I imagine I’ll be processing it all for quite a while. When you’re pregnant, you have nine months to prepare. After five years of trying (and failing) to get pregnant and a year of a half of pursuing adoption, our whole lives changed overnight. While I’m not recovering from giving birth, I am processing a lot emotionally.

I waited to write this post until our little guy is almost two months old because the birth parents didn’t officially terminate their rights until this past Friday. In many states, the termination of rights process takes a few days. In Wisconsin, it takes a month, if not longer. I use my real name on this blog and many other places online. We have met the birth parents and several other members of the birth family, all of whom, like us, live in southeast WI. It didn’t seem right to post anything publicly until after the court date.

I’ve also been extremely conflicted about what I want to post about our adoption and journey into parenthood. I feel strongly about limiting the number of pictures and personal information I share about my kids. I also know what it’s like to see post after post about pregnancy and happy family life when you can’t have kids. Time and time again, I see people who have spent years facing infertility immediately turn around and post extensive details and photos about pregnancy and parenthood, which doesn’t really seem right to me. So I don’t want to do that. But I also don’t want to avoid talking about parenthood and adoption because it’s a huge part of my life. Not posting anything publicly until now doesn’t feel great either.

I don’t know exactly how much I’ll be discussing parenthood and adoption on this blog. I promise it isn’t going to turn into a mommy blog. I love sharing DIY projects, home decor, holiday/seasonal inspiration, recipes, and all things photography and don’t intend to stop covering any of these topics anytime soon. Also, as evidenced by my lack of posting lately, I’m sure it’s not surprising that most likely I won’t be posting as often as usual for the foreseeable future. I’d like to get into a 1-2 posts a week routine, but I’m not quite there yet. Please bear with me during this continued transition period.

To those who have been praying for and thinking about us throughout our long journey to parenthood and have continued to ask about adoption, thank you. As we started 2017, it really felt like it was going to be our year. I truly believe the power of prayer played a huge role in this shift and ultimately, the adoption of our son. It means the world to us to have so much support.



9 thoughts on “Adoption Update”

  1. Congratulations on your adoption! Praying for all of you =) Last week, the adoption for my youngest granddaughter was finally completed – she is almost a year old. Lot’s of processing – lol – and I don’t think it ever stops for parents. Enjoy your journey! God bless you all!

  2. SUPER Congrats on your little man! It sounds like a complete whirlwind and I don’t blame you for taking your time to process it all. Enjoy every minute!

  3. Congratulations!!! I am so excited and happy for you! I hope the kitties are doing well with the changes and that things are becoming less hectic for you now that the court case is over and you’ve had a little more time to adjust.

    I’ve been struggling with deciding how much/what to post, too. I am about to start posting some projects/tutorials for baby-related things next month, but only to the extent that they match up with my blog’s message/mission. I haven’t felt comfortable posting about pregnancy for a variety of reasons. I don’t think I’ll be comfortable posting identifiable photos and probably not his/her real name once Baby is born, and I don’t see myself sharing that many photos on FB, either. I’m concerned about in-laws posting excessive photos on their FB profiles and unsure about how to prevent that from happening. It’s a whole lot to think about.

    1. Natasha – I am sure if you ask your in-laws about posting too much on FB and the many reasons why, that they will be courteous enough not to post photos. Often customers will send me pictures of their little one wearing a sweater they purchased, I always ask first if I could use their picture in my Shop. I respect their privacy, and I am sure people will do the same for you!!

  4. I am so happy for both you and your husband. I understand your reluctance to talk too much about your new arrival. As I wrote you many months ago, I too went through the fertility process only to be told to adopt as I would never be able to have any children. Well after 2 miscarriages, and lots of clomid, I now have 3 adult children. For those that don’t believe in miracles, we are both proof that they do happen in many ways. Blessings to you and your new family!

  5. Hey, Rose!
    Ah, it’s been awhile since our days at HubPages and I ran across a photo of the little guy on Instagram just a bit ago and wanted to come over and wish you many congratulations!! What a wonderful journey you have in front of you. I was adopted within my family and it always warms my heart when I hear of someone being adopted – a chance at an awesome life that that child might not have been able to have.
    I know we once spoke of infertility issues. In the end, J and I decided that if it never happened for us, that we have the rest of our lives to try to adopt, if we decided to go that route. 🙂 For now, we’re comfortable as the two of us, and our fur kids, but it’s wonderful seeing such heartwarming stories such as yours.
    I wish you the most incredible journey, hope the kitties get to come home soon (if they haven’t already), and that you have many incredible moments raising this tiny human. Sending you many hugs and more congrats!!

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